More Anal Sex Do’s and Don’ts
Call it the Anal Sex revolution if you will, because backdoor action is featured prominently in pornography and a recent scientific survey indicating that 46% of women being the recipient of an ass fucking. If you are considering adding anal sex to your repertoire, there are some common-sense tips that will make it more likely to be a mutually-pleasurable experience, which is pretty important if you ever want to have it with her again in the future.
1. Reluctant anal sex is almost always bad anal sex. If she isn’t really, really turned on, your experience is unlikely to be good, and is unlikely to be repeated. Don’t skimp on the foreplay. During penetration, either she or you should be giving her vigorous stimulation to her clitoris and/or G-Spot.
2. Don’t skimp on preparation. Ideally, you want the decks cleared so to speak, lest you end up with a god-awful mess. A quick enema, nothing too fancy, just a water bottle enema/douche from the chemists, with warm (not too hot or cold), tap water should be enough, just fill until there’s pressure in the bowel and flush out, repeating until there’s noting but clear water on discharge, and she’s good to go. Checking with a finger will help to determine that the playing field is open and will help to evacuate any remaining water.
3. Use lots and lots of lube. Water-based lube, in and around her asshole and on your cock is absolutely mandatory. Besides, giving her hole this attention will loosen up and prepare her for penetration. Anal sex should not hurt. If it hurts, you are doing it wrong.
4. Take it slow. Particularly if you are new to the experience, it’s important that she be relaxed, take it inch by inch, letting her control the penetration until you’re all the way in. If she can only take a little bit of it, let her work up and down on that fraction and you’ll soon be all the way in.
5. Never go from her ass to her vagina. While ass-to-mouth and ass-to-vagina is very popular in porn, it is highly inadvisable in real life, and often times porn scenes are cut to give the appearance of going from one to the other when in fact there’s intermediate sanitizing or the shots are shown in non-chronological order. Even fully cleaned-out, there is bacteria and other pathogens that are just fine and healthy to have in one’s ass that can wreak havoc if they get into your girl’s vagina, or the other end of her digestive tract.
The “take it slow” advice could not be repeated enough. I understand men get extremely turned on and they just want to be snug inside that tight, warm ass but experience has proven to me that those who can’t control themselves enough to be considerate even after you ask them to slow down are likely gonna be sucky all-around sex partners.
Communication is key. Yes, that means you have to talk. Or if you’re like one of the occasional Cam4 weirdos who text while fucking, then more power to you. Just know mind-reading isn’t an option and if it hurts you need to say STOP.
Successful anal sex happens when the receiver really, REALLY wants it. There will likely be pain and discomfort if the receiver isn’t really up to it because pain and discomfort comes from excessive tension in the sphincter and when your bottom doesn’t really want it or is not in the mood, that baby clamps shut. And when it defiantly clamps shut and you try to force your member up in thar, guess what that bitchy sphincter will do? That’s right, it will say “Nuh uh!!” and will be prone to the dreaded ANAL CRAMP.
You can drive a mack truck up my asshole and boy do I want the cock up there but keep in mind that the sphincter is a muscle that is prone to cramps just like any other muscle. And let me tell you, you shove that cock up there too fast, you’re looking at possibly causing some of the worst pain your anal queen or king will ever feel. I have gotten a few anal cramps myself due to partners shoving it in and there’s nothing worse. Agony. It’s cruel and unusual punishment and at the absolutely worst moment, too. An experienced anal lover like me would probably just writhe on the floor holding his butt while in extreme pain for a minute or two then he will slap you silly (and not with his cock either). However, the dreaded ANAL CRAMP is a sure way to make a curious anal first-timer swear off anal for life.
So yep. Don’t be a prick and take it easy with that dick! The wondrous asshole can take lots of furious thrusting action but it needs some gentle coaxing before getting there. Give your partner the gift of anal gape and steer clear of the dreaded ANAL CRAMP!!
A tip for inexperienced bottoms: First, as mentioned in the article, make sure your hole is COMPLETELY clean. When the moment comes to let your dude’s cock in, your instinct will be to tighten up. Instead, push gently, as though you were purging. The cock will enter with ease. An experienced top will take it slow and build up speed and intensity from there to keep you comfortable – you’ll love it. Trust me. It’s a way of life.