Cum Clean: The Dirty Truth about 50 Shades of Grey
“He hits me again, slightly to the side, and again, the other side, then pauses slowly as he peels my panties down and pulls them off. He gently trails his palm across my behind again before continuing my spanking”
Tantilizing and sexy, by now we all know why 50 Shades of Grey is a best seller. Hugely popular with soccer moms and ladies who may not speak openly about kinky sex but who certainly love reading about it, its explosion in mainstream media is a blessing of sexual freedom. But despite the vivid descriptions of hot and wild sex does it stay true to the BDSM world? On the one hand it’s (finally) opening discussion about expressing more forms of sexuality yet on the other it stays within the confines of gendered norms and it doesn’t quite represent the BDSM reality. Even though I love a good erotic read (and show from my fav camgirls) I question the accuracy of its portrayal. Author Emma Green from magazine The Atlantic argues that the context is lost, the healthy ways to combine sex and pain supported by communication, emotional maturity and self knowledge is simply not present in young virginal Anna and relentless Christian. It’s time to debunk a few myths about BDSM.
Myth #1 Kink or vanilla. One or the other.
Everyone has different levels of desire and comfort with BDSM. While one person may enjoy leather or latex they may not be attracted to the spanking. Just because you are turned on with one aspect, doesn’t mean you want it all. You can pick and choose your fetish and it might not be stable over time. Think of it like a scale, you lie somewhere within the extremes but it doesn’t have to be all or nothing.
Myth #2 Women are subs, Men are Doms.
I blame society for sex roles still being rather traditional. Don’t forget about the dominatrix! The powerful, strong and in control woman who knows how to make her sub beg for more. CAM4 has a few, why not watch xxxnimfaxxx crack the whip and see for yourself.
Myth #3 BDSM is dangerous.
Not when done right! Between safewords and clear consent, conversations are open and necessary. Unlike most “vanilla” sex where boundaries and especially protection aren’t usually discussed beforehand. How quickly tables can turn without honest communication. Safety is really only a concern when you’re not willing to talk about it. So get it straight then jump right in.
And the best part – it makes you happy! A recent study by a Dutch university showed that practioners of BDSM are actually mentally and emotionally healtier than the general public. Something we always kinda knew in the Cammunity. So embrace your kinky side. Slap on those latex thigh highs, dust off your bondage gear and let your imagination run wild ! A little Sub-Dom role play never hurt anyone (pun intended), in fact it makes you psychologically healthy.
Masters of kink like Maya Homerton and Lara Tinelli have some of the hottest (and free!!) shows on CAM4 and these ladies know how to do BDSM right. Why not take a peek at their steamy shows for a taste. Or if you want literature to get you wet check out BDSM erotica www.kinkybookreviews.com for a list of goodies.
